An elder of the Methodist Church has sparked conversations after encouraging members of the church’s Men’s Fellowship to prioritize early marriage and early childbearing as part of responsible family life.
Speaking to members during a recent gathering, the church elder advised men not to delay marriage unnecessarily, stressing that building a family at a younger age comes with long-term benefits. According to him, there is a unique joy in growing older alongside children who are closer in age and maturity, rather than spending old age raising very young children.
“Get married early and have your children very early. It is very beautiful when you are growing and your children are almost the same height as you,” he stated, drawing both laughter and thoughtful reflection from members present.
He explained that starting a family earlier allows parents—especially fathers—to complete their major parental responsibilities while they still have the strength, energy, and resources to support their children effectively. This, he noted, gives parents the opportunity to enjoy their later years with less pressure and more fulfillment.
The elder also encouraged men to approach marriage and family life with seriousness and responsibility, emphasizing that marriage should not be postponed solely for material reasons if both partners are ready and committed.
His remarks have since generated mixed reactions, with some supporting his views as practical and culturally relevant, while others argue that marriage decisions should depend on individual readiness, emotional maturity, and financial stability rather than age alone.
The conversation has reignited the broader debate around the ideal age for marriage and parenthood, particularly in today’s society where many young people are choosing to delay family life in pursuit of education, career growth, and economic security.
